A Guide to Understanding Your Relationship’s Emotional Vitality > 자유게시판

This practice serves as a mindful tool to uncover how emotional energy flows — or gets blocked — between two people sharing a life.

Unlike a home energy audit that measures electricity usage, a couple’s energy audit focuses on the flow of emotional support, communication patterns, shared responsibilities, and mutual fulfillment.

This process invites curiosity over criticism, and connection over conflict.

Start by setting aside a quiet time when both partners are calm and open to reflection, ideally without distractions such as phones or television.

Choose a neutral, comfortable space where you can speak honestly and listen deeply.

Start with how you’re truly feeling — not what you think you should say.

Ask open-ended questions like, How have you been feeling in the past week or month? What drains your energy in our relationship? What gives you the most joy or comfort when we’re together?.

Model honesty by opening up before asking .

This sets a tone of trust and mutual respect.

Take a clear look at who does what — not just on paper, but in feeling.

What’s not said today becomes a wall tomorrow.

Write it down — even if it’s on a napkin.

Do you regularly check in with each other beyond surface-level topics?.

Do you ever feel like you’re talking to a wall — or to a partner who’s only half-present?.

These are energy-draining habits that erode intimacy over time.

Let your words build bridges, not barricades.

Are you spending meaningful moments together, or has routine replaced connection?.

Are there designated times for walks, meals, or just sitting quietly side by side?.

Small, sacred moments are the glue of lasting love.

Do one or both of you feel constantly exhausted from work, parenting, or medium-bellen external stressors?.

When one person is empty, the whole system drains.

Do you both feel aligned on big-picture issues like finances, family, travel, or personal growth?.

It’s not always loud — sometimes it’s just a quiet ache.

It demands respect, curiosity, and flexibility.

Tiny acts, repeated, rebuild entire worlds.

One kind word. One shared silence. One "thank you." These are the revolutions of love.

Check in often.

You’re not trying to fix a broken thing — you’re tending a living relationship.

Not because everything is perfect, but because both are present.